About Pamela Peters, MA, MFT-C

Relationships, Attachment & Alternative Relationship Styles

Let’s Talk About Relationship Goals

Hello. I’m Pam Peters, MA, MFTC (she/her), relationship therapist, and fellow human being. Each relationship is unique to the people in that relationship. During our work together I help couples discover and nurture what is best for their distinctive relationship style. Through thorough exploration into your experience, we can then determine your relational goal—our guiding light throughout our work together.

You’re my ideal clients if you are motivated to learn about your relationship patterns so you can determine what parts you want to keep and what parts you want to change. You don’t want to throw out the baby with the bath water. I help you using an attachment lens to see how your past relationships impact your current ones. I have supported clients through infidelity, healing from trauma, pre-commitment therapy, and deciding whether they want to stay together or separate (discernment counseling).

I believe sometimes we learn the most from the challenging and difficult moments and phases in our lives. Having a supportive therapist who can come alongside you to get in touch with your own inner wisdom during those difficult times can make the journey feel safer and more hopeful.

My therapy style originates from an attachment-based systemic lens. I want us to assess what the main issue is and how it affects you across all parts of your lives—intimate, social, familial, professional, etc. I integrate therapy modalities such as Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, and Relational Life Therapy. I like to use experiential techniques that work with what is happening between people right in the therapy room.

When you work with me we will determine the goal and then begin working on various techniques that we’ll practice during our sessions. If you can do it in the room, you will be able to do it when you are back in your real lives as well.

My formal education and training include: MAMFT from Regis University, MA in Cultural Anthropology from Prescott College, and a BA in Comparative Literature/German from Brown University, and Certification from the Psychedelic Facilitator Immersive: Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Space Holding & Integration with Elemental Psychedelics.

Prior to becoming a relationship therapist, I had careers in high tech, as a backcountry guide, and as a private art instructor. These experiences have given me insight and perspective into people and their relationships from many different angles.

Relationship Therapy

Experience safety and security in your relationship

Attachment-based counseling focuses on the ways that we either feel connected to one another, or don’t feel connected. Humans are born with an innate desire to be attached—to feel safety and security. How we experience safety in our past relationships—family, past partners, and others—affects how we are in our current relationships. We’ll work together to identify what relational patterns are impacting you in negative ways. Once we can see the pattern, we’ll work to understand what is going on inside yourselves during the pattern so you can communicate that to your partner. We will work with the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that you can see and express as well as the ones below the surface. Expressing these vulnerable emotions to one another in a safe space can lead you to feeling more deeply seen and understood.

My Specialties

1 Relationships

I am committed to offering a non-judgmental, open space for my clients to explore their highest highs, their lowest lows and everything in between. I embrace all relationship types including intimate partners (including polyamory and consensual non-monogamy), best friends, parents, siblings, co-workers, extended families, and all others.

2 Discernment counseling

You may find yourselves contemplating whether to continue your journey together or part ways. In this case, discernment counseling emerges as a different kind of support, offering you a space for reflection to gain clarity. Unlike traditional couple therapy, discernment counseling has a distinct focus—you as individuals gain clarity about the future of your relationship.

3 Alternative relationship styles

I have 12+ years of experience in the Denver poly/open relationship/consensual non monogamy community. I know what alternative relationships look like—in all their diversity. I am an LGBTQ+- kink-, and poly-affirming relationship therapist. I support couples considering opening up as well as those in alternative relationships that need a safe space to process any challenges coming up.