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Top 5 Reasons Couples REALLY Come to Counseling

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Top 5 Reasons Couples REALLY Come to Counseling : Modern Love Counseling Why do couples really come to counseling? You may actually be surprised! From my experience as a relationship therapist, here are the top 5 reasons couples really come to counseling and seek out my specific services. Get ready to check your assumptions! I have heard it all. Generally speaking, these are the top 5 reasons why the majority of my .
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Additional Resources for Couples : The Modern Love Box

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Introducing The Modern Love Box : A Resource for You and Your Partner Sustaining the spark in a long term relationship can be difficult at times. The romance may fizzle, the daily grind may take over, date nights may feel stale. It’s OK. This is totally normal. Someone once said, “love is a journey, not a destination,” and with that comes the boredom, the balance, the excitement and the struggle. It’s .
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Things You Don’t Realize You Do When You’re Feeling Rejected

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Feeling Rejected or Criticized : How to Become More Self Aware and Empowered, Rather than Reactive and Isolated It’s inevitable, isn’t it? Feeling rejected or criticized. You may currently be feeling rejected by a romantic partner, although I am sure you can also relate to feeling rejected or criticized by a friend, mentor, teacher, employer, family member, parent, etc. We are complex creatures and our emotions, behaviors and thoughts/assumptions are extremely .
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The Ex: Should You Stay Friends With Them?

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Self Reflection : Is it healthy to stay friends with your ex? Do you ever ask, “should you stay friends with your ex?” It’s a tricky question for many of us, especially if we haven’t truly identified our own intentions or feelings. Most modern relationships start with two people having a relationship history. Whether it’s extensive, short or eclectic, our relationship past is usually complicated and sometimes hard to understand. When .
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How to Have a Successful Relationship

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Takeaway: I’m a couples therapist in Denver, and my clients often ask me questions like, “What makes a relationship successful?” or “How do you have a successful relationship?” These specific questions can be incredibly challenging to answer because relationships can be very complicated. These answers can also be confusing if you find yourself from a lineage of divorce, a not-so-great depiction of a loving partnership from your parents, and/or you witness .
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Why You Shouldn’t Ask “Are You Going To Have Kids?”

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Are You Going To Have Kids? How Asking About Children May Actually Be Hurtful Are you going to have kids? May seem like an innocent question. Our culture especially finds this a “normal” topic of conversation considering it is just assumed that everyone wants children… or can have them. I work with an array of clients varying in relationship status; single, dating, in a relationship(s), married. My clients have been extremely successful in .
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The Ironic Envy : What Traveling Has Taught Me About Values

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What Traveling Has Taught Me About (My) Values. I enjoy traveling. As I think many of us do. We can feel free to be our true authentic selves, not worrying about calorie intake or emails. It’s a feeling of release and ease. I recently traveled to the West Indies with my adorable husband. We weren’t exactly sure what to expect, but we knew we were up for an adventure. The moment .
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I Love You, Man : Adult Friendships

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BFFs and Adulting : Why is it so Difficult to Make Adult Friendships? Another common theme I tend to hear from clients has nothing to do with romantic relationships, but rather adult friendships. As I am writing this, I immediately think of the movie I Love You, Man staring Paul Rudd and Jason Segel. Although comical, the movie actually has a lot of truth to it and while you may find yourself laughing your butt .
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How do we know we are in a Committed Relationship?

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A Committed Relationship : A Label, an Event or a Feeling? What “Commitment” is Expected to do for us in our Relationships I have noticed throughout my work with couples that one thing seems to pop up and cause tension, conflict and/or disconnection between partners. This lurking dark cloud that slowly creeps into session that I speak of, generally involves sensitivities around “commitment.” “So then, what signifies a committed relationship?” You may .
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How to Improve Sex in a Relationship

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How to Improve Sex in a Relationship | Here’s How Your SEXpectations may be Limiting Your Sex Life in a Longterm Relationship I often hear the common complaint from clients regarding their intimacy and sexual relationship with their longterm partner: “We don’t have as much sex as we used to.” “We have become complacent. Sex is more of a routine.” “Our honeymoon stage is way gone.” “I don’t really ever desire sex.” .
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